Is it hard?

I was asked recently if it was hard to truly be a single mom. The answer is yes it is hard, however, there are a lot of things in life that are hard.

Being a parent both male and female no matter solo or coupled together it is hard. Each day brings a new challenge or battle or frustration...the list goes on. Each age brings new hurdles to cross and parents of girls...the E-M-O-T-I-O-N-S....they are very very very real and present even at a young age.

I can only speak for my situation as to what is hard and what is not. I was lucky that in the beginning it was not only me I had a LOT of support and help and for that I am very grateful. We did have some hiccups along the way that I think, had there been some extra help parent wise we could have avoided them or even resolved them a lot quicker. One thing I have learned is that I have to figure out how to handle situations best. In order to do that I have to think about what a mom and a dad would do. I of course, to get reference think about my parents and how they handled situations.

I'm still learning, and I think I will be learning for years to come, that each situation is different. Some need a gentle coax while others need a straight up fight. Some need some hugs and some needs to time apart. I have to learn what triggers cause meltdowns and I have to remind myself that even though I'm worn out, and doubting the decision I've just made that I can do this. Giving myself pep talks happens more than not. I imagine if I were in a dual parent relationship WE would be able to build each other up during those tough moments.

Those tough moments are the moments that really make single parenting hard. By no means are they the only thing that makes it hard or the biggest thing that makes it hard but it is something that dual parenting can defiantly help with.

Yes parenting is hard, we all know its hard. Raising tiny humans with very real feelings wants desires and dreams in a crazy world is hard. Raising kids alone is hard, raising kids together is hard... its all hard. BUT, it is the most enjoyable fulfilling thing I have ever done. I wouldn't trade any of it for a different life. I would enjoy a cleaner house from time to time, but even then the toys and the mess remind me that life has been there and love lives there.